I went on a vision quest a couple of years back. I was searching for answers in my own life and were trying to find a good path which would lead me to better places.
A little simplified, a vision quest is a rite where you go out in nature searching for spiritual guidance and purpose. Often you spend time sitting alone in a predesignated spot while waking and fasting, and will remain there until the quest is over or the Shaman (don't go out alone) brings you back.
I learned a very valuable lesson while being out there. And I wish to share some of it.
Regardless if you are feeling good and think of yourself as successful, or if you are suffering all the while you struggle from paycheck to paycheck, the view which we experience what happens defines our feeling of happiness.
If we are to close to events we might not see the bigger picture. If we push life away we might end up with a series of events which we feel we didn't choose.
If life was a rope - holding it to tight might make it snap. Holding it too loose could make it dragging in the dirt. And if we are not careful and choose wisely our rope can turn into a noose.
Below is a wonderful story which also expresses what I want to share with you. Remember never to take anything with you in life which doesn't help you on your path.
An aging Hindu master grew tired of his apprentice complaining, and so, one morning, sent him for some salt. When the apprentice returned, the master instructed the unhappy young man to put a handful of salt in a glass of water and then to drink it.
"How does it taste?" the master asked. "Bitter," spit the apprentice.
The master then asked the young man to take another handful of salt and put it in the lake nearby. Once the apprentice swirled his handful of salt in the water, the old man said, "Now drink from the lake."
As the water dripped down the young man's chin, the master asked, "How does it taste?" "Fresh," remarked the apprentice.
"Do you taste the salt?" asked the master. "No," said the young man.
At this, the master took the young man's hands, offering, "The pain of life is pure salt; no more, no less. The amount of pain in life remains exactly the same. However, the amount of bitterness we taste depends on the container we put the pain in. So when you are in pain, the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of things .... STOP BEING A GLASS. BECOME A LAKE."